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Constant advances in both science and medicine have provided us a great deal of information to help hone our ability to be healthy.  However, the constant barrage of images the media inflicts upon us via magazine, television and movies has essentially guaranteed that our self esteem is intimately intertwined to how we look or how we think we look.  Looking good has become the all-powerful motivator for many, taking precedence over health and wellbeing.

As this has become a major focus what has been lost (did we ever have it?) is the desire to evolve who we are as human beings, especially in how we treat one another.  Instead, it’s usually about looking good and making money. The kick of these two experiences are addictive and temporary for one relies upon needing others to forever tell us how wonderful we look while the other is about eventually collecting “enough” money to satisfy our own sense of accomplishment.  Is this milestone ever attained?  When it’s all said and done, we enter this world naked and leave the same way.

It has becoming increasingly clear that our society’s Darwinian paradigm is not working.  Just turn on the news.  We, as a nation have lost our way.

Further clarity occurs when one finally realizes that the majority of people you meet are only interested in how you can help them make money or further their goals. You learn that many will not be looking out for your best interests or thinking of you before themselves. 

So, as you have navigated this minefield most likely, at some point, you encountered another whom you trusted and something happened.  As a result, anger built up within you.  You may have even gotten angry at yourself for allowing it to happen. Or maybe, as time passed you look back on this incident and hold regret for not acting as you thought you should have. “I should have known better”, you say to yourself. 

While this thought may or may not be true, a deeper truth exists. Anger and regret are like acid to the body and mind. You may have an amazingly fit body but if your inner world is polluted with this type of self concept then true health will forever elude you. 

How does holding anger or regret at something that happened in your past create health in your life?  What is the purpose of holding on to regret or anger?

Perhaps the purpose is the need to be right about why you should remain angry or regretful that keeps its power over you. We can become so convinced that the “should” is the “truth” that a larger perspective escapes us. Remember, we are only human.

It is unfortunate that many of us have given to others with good intentions only to be rewarded with a selfish individual who cannot see beyond their own ego needs.  They either do not want to know or cannot see the harm they have done by their lack of consideration, selfishness and narrow mindedness.  The unfortunate truth is that most people do not take responsibility for their actions.

Not when the philosophy that we are trained with is survival of the fittest.  We learn this in the schoolyard where children establish a pecking order based upon what they see and hear from their parents. Quickly we learn how to overlook certain things in exchange for social survival.  The need to survive is very powerful.  So too, is the need to win and be right.

At some point in your life, somebody along the way wronged you or betrayed you.  As a result, you have held a great deal of rage towards them and possibly yourself for many years.  But remember, everything in our world has a price.  Keeping these emotions within the body day after day cumulatively affects your body’s chemistry.

Have you ever seen a picture of a lung that has been smoking for years?  It is blackened and diseased.  There is much evidence to show that holding anger and regret within the body negatively affects your organs, cells, blood and bone.

Let’s switch the gear and talk about sex or more specifically…orgasm.  An orgasm is a physical release of energy.  It is this release that is so damn pleasurable to us that it keeps us coming back for more (no pun intended).  These experiences provide us a very clear lesson.  Release of stored energy feels good.  It opens and calms us. 

Isn’t life easier to look at after sex and orgasm?  The degree of this change of perspective depends upon how deeply involved in the sex you got. (How’s that for motivation?)

If we apply the same reasoning to deep emotions such as anger or regret then the idea of releasing this energy can be very helpful.  If you have deep anger in your life or deep regret about your past, you are storing this energy in your body and it is affecting your life, your mood, your thoughts and your health. 

My question is, “Is it worth it?”

It all depends upon what you value and what you are willing to sacrifice. 

Mr. Sheldon Ginsberg President of FitPath Health Services holds a Bachelors of Science in Exercise Science from State University of New York at Buffalo.  In addition, he has obtained advanced certification as a Strength and Conditioning Coach from the National Strength and Conditioning Association and he is also a 12th level Reiki Master Teacher.  To learn more you can visit www.thefitpath.net or call 305-785-2936

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