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The danger zone of dating…

It’s always flattering to be ‘hit on’. Sometimes the play turns out well; others… not so much. It is always awkward when you get approached and feel ‘cornered’. I theorize that people may be like dogs, sometimes you just do NOT like someone else’s scent. AT ALL. Call it pheremones, bad chemistry, mixed connections, but when it’s all said and done not all approachees will react equally as “into” them as the approacher. I shake my head in contemplation… What does one then do?

Persistence is a fine, fine thing, but at times is not something to dismiss as harmless. It’s crucial to be able to truly evaluate a silly crush vs. a real-life obsession. I just finished a great book called The Gift of Fear, which talks about following your gut and using the “gift” of fear as a signal to become aware of present danger. For all the ladies, this book is an eye-opener and shouldn’t be taken lightly.

It’s frequent in my blogs to see “always use cherished caution.” Many of you do. Don’t let a random stranger know too much about you, where you live, work, play, eat, etc. Though they may not be stalker material, they may somehow start popping up all over the scene and force *you* to have to start hiding out like an outlaw.

If you feel uncomfy walking alone, question your reasons. Buy a big ol’ can of MACE if needed. Take a self-defense class. Always be on your toes. Don’t brush off any feelings of uneasiness, they may be indicators pointing to something real. Don’t blast your iPod too loud when walking. Stray from leading people on, but be compassionate. There is nothing one can do to truly be at fault for gaining a stalker, but there are ways to be prepared and create a wall of safety around you by being confident and alert. So, be kind, firm and stick with your gut instincts.

Blythe

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